Can someone please explain to me what the deal is? I understand Facebook, and friends, but is there some prize to having the most friends?
Mind you, I have connected with people I haven’t seen or talked to since high school (or in one case, elementary school.) I even have friends that I have never met in real life, but I feel like I know through parenting bulletin boards and blogs.
But you. You were my best friend from the time we started having children 16 years ago. We lived through pregnancies, labors, deliveries, medical scares, first teeth, first days of schools. You came to my house every Friday night and watched X-Files while our men-folk went in search of the hottest buffalo wings they could find, washed down with all the Rolling Rock and Newcastle they could find. We even vacationed together for 10 years.
Then Jim and I split. And so did you. During the darkest hours of my life, you weren’t there for me. You visited my apartment once in these last three years. I never stepped foot in your house again. Then you moved, and didn’t even tell me. I found out from your brother. And I’ve never been invited to your new house.
Sure, I get your texts that say “Happy Birthday” and “Happy Mothers’ Day” and “Merry Christmas.” But I expect more out of a friend. A lot more.
So when I got your first “Friend Request” through Facebook, I didn’t immediately ignore it. It sat there for a couple of weeks before I clicked it away. The second request was ignored immediately. Then there was the third request with your message, asking if you should give up.
The answer is “Yes.” You should give up. Because I gave up on you a long time ago. I’ve grown a lot in these last three years. I refuse to surround myself with draining, toxic individuals, whether they be husbands or friends. I would rather have no friends and be alone then have friends like you.
Wow, it sounds like this person really hurt you a lot. I’m sorry you had to have that happen to you.
When I had dd I went through similar things and now those people are having children finally and trying to friend me too. I turn those ones down. Unless they message me and say something that makes me change my mind.
I’m glad you are sticking to your guns and you are continuing to grow. I for one consider it an honor to watch you become this new woman you have become. Independent and strong and so many other things.
Good for you.
Right on. Sounds like someone you’re better off without.
Hi, nice post. I have been pondering this topic,so thanks for posting. I’ll probably be subscribing to your posts. Keep up the good posts